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    My Role as School Counselor at B.F. Day Elementary

    John TaylorHello, I am John Taylor and I am the school counselor at B.F. Day Elementary!

    Contact: John Taylor | Phone: 206 252-6018 | Email:

    “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
    You can steer yourself any direction you choose.”
      ~Dr. Seuss


    Counselor News | April 8, 2020 

    Hello BF Day Community, As week three has come and gone it feels like we have been apart for so much longer. With all the uncertainty in the world, undoubtedly, adults and kids alike are feeling the stress of this global pandemic. We learn to do deal/cope with our stressors in various ways, some pose as helpful and some not as much. Each week I will send tips and tricks focusing on a strategy for you to try at home. This week’s topics is breathing. When we are anxious or upset, our heart rate increases, and our breath becomes shallower. When we take deep breaths, we send a message back to the brain: It’s okay to calm down and we are safe. Breathing strategies are especially important to reduce stress. If we as adults know how to use them, we can help our kids know how and when to implement them too.

    Breathing Strategies to try with your kids at home:

    1. With your child, stick out your right hand holding all five fingers out. Now pretend your fingers are tops of a roller coaster and the bottom of your fingers are the bottom. Using your other hand trace each finger; take a slow inhale going up the rollercoaster then a deep breath going down the roller coaster for each finger. You should have at least five “roller coaster breaths”. During my lessons with the kids we will usually finish with this strategy, so they may be able to help teach you!

    2. Another strategy is using a breathing buddy. Lay on your back, put a favorite stuffed animal on your tummy, and watch that animal slowly move up and down as you inhale and exhale. Do this together — it’s playful and helpful for the whole family. 

    From Sesame Street: Elmo Learns to belly breath.

    All the best, John Taylor | School Counselor

    National School Counselors Week Feb 3 - 7

    February | National School Counseling Week

    We are so fortunate to have John Taylor as our School Counselor.

    A huge thank-you goes to our PTSA so that we are able to have Mr. Taylor here full  time to help all our students.

    For February our school wide social emotional learning focus is on emotions, specifically developing the awareness and tools to cope effectively when we have big Emotions. During my weekly classroom lessons, students will learn several key concepts; awareness of what things make us have big feelings, understanding how the size of a problem should match our reaction, and lastly, developing their coping tool box (helpful coping strategies). In addition to my classroom lessons, dragon dens will also touch on a similar topic.

    Monthly School-Wide SEL Focuses Thus Far;
    1. Anti-Bullying community
    2. Personal space/friendship skills
    3. Spreading Kindness
    4. Growth Mindset
    5. Coping with our Feelings and Emotions

    Thank you so much! John Taylor, School Counselor

    January | The school wide theme for the month of January "growth mindset.”

    A growth mindset is the belief that individuals who believe their talents and skills can be developed through hard work, learning from mistakes, and not giving up. This is counter to a fixed mindset, which tells us that our skills and abilities are fixed and innate. When I visit classrooms, the focus will be on the importance of continuing to try hard things (even if we don’t want to) and understanding that every time we display a growth mindset our brain “stretches” that much more.

    Head Silhouette Growth Mindset "Failure is an opportunity to grow"Challenges help me to grow"I like to try new things"  Head Silhouette Fixed Mindset "Failure is the limit of my abilities"  I'm either good at it or I'm not"I don't like to be challenged" "When I'm frustrated, I give up"


    John Taylor, MA Ed., School Counselor

    School Counselor

    “The elementary school years set the foundation for developing the knowledge, attitudes and skills necessary for children to become healthy, competent and confident learners. Elementary school counselors have an impact on these years by implementing a comprehensive school counseling program and collaborating with school staff, parents and the community to create a safe and respectful learning environment.” (American School Counseling Association, 2017)

    Please note*  I provide brief solution focused therapy I do not provide long-term therapy.

    Counseling Program Goals

    1. Empower students to be the best version of themselves, both academically and emotionally.  
    2. To provide social and emotional support by supporting students and teachers in the explicit teaching of life skills through one on one counseling, group counseling, and classroom guidance lessons.

    Basic Services

    1. Classroom Guidance Lessons to every classroom every week
    2. Small Group Counseling: to expand, enrich, and reinforce specific skills in areas such as social skills, emotion management, divorce support, anxiety, problem solving.
    3. Individual Counseling: to address specific needs of individuals who may need additional support.
    4. Supporting students and families who are in crisis

    Additional Services

    • Academic Problem Solving
    • Connecting Families to Community and Mental Health Resources
    • Collaborating with Teachers
    • Collaborating with Families
    • Assisting with School Transitions
    • School-wide Anti-Bullying Efforts
    • Assisting with implementation of the BF Day Way.


    We utilize resources and curriculum from a variety of sources including:

    • Second Step Social-Emotional Curriculum
    • RULER (mood meter)
    • Sound Discipline: Positive Discipline

    How to Access Services

    Anyone can access or request services for a student if concerns arise. Those who typically refer students to the counselor are:

    • Families
    • Teachers
    • Administrators
    • Specialists
    • Students (self-refer)

    How? Simply call or email your concern.

    Online & Community Resources

    Puget Sound Adlerian Society Parenting Calendar |

    - A great online resource for parenting classes, support groups, and parent education events in the local area.

    Sound Discipline |

    - Helps families and schools build respectful relationships with children using Positive Discipline approaches.

    SENG: Supporting Emotional Needs of the Gifted:

    - A resource to help families of academically advanced students meet emotional needs and challenges.

    Books that Heal |

    - A bibliotherapy blog with children’s books on various topics to help address emotions, development, and life’s changes and challenges.

    Parents Helping Parents |

    - A nonprofit parent-directed family resource that provides guidance, support, and services to children with special needs and their families.